Every woman’s experience following an abortion is unique. Some women feel relieved, and some women regret their decision right away. Some women have deep feelings of loss, and others may not feel much at all.
It’s common to feel many things all at once: Relief, anger, sadness, and hope can all exist at one time. That may sound and feel confusing, but it’s also normal.
If you have had an abortion (or know someone who has), maybe you have noticed changes emotionally or physically. Why do you feel this way? Some women and men who have been involved in an abortion decision have feelings of sadness, loneliness, anger, or a lack of interest in work, school, or even sex.
Many women and men, no matter what they feel, find it helpful to talk about their abortion experience. A trained professional, a family member, or a close friend can offer great support. Some women and men avoid talking through their feelings because they feel ashamed, or they fear the judgment of others.
You might not have told your parents, friends, or significant other about your abortion decision. That doesn’t mean you need to sort out your feelings alone. In fact, the people close to you may be experiencing the same things. You can get help.
We offer post-abortive care in both individual and group settings. If you are concerned about someone finding out about your abortion, we can connect you to help outside your area too. All of our services are confidential.
One thing that surprises many women and men is, sometimes these feelings don’t show up in the weeks and months after an abortion. Instead they will pop up years later. It can be overwhelming and confusing to deal with emotions from the distant past. It’s never too late get help or counseling. There is no time limit on your feelings.
It doesn’t matter if your abortion was yesterday or 20 years ago. We can give you the number for a hotline where you can speak to someone about the way you feel right away, or connect you with a group in your area that meets in person. There are even weekend retreats ready to help women sort through any difficult emotions they’re experiencing from a past abortion.
Just as every woman experiences abortion differently, every woman has a unique path to moving on.
If you’re looking for emotional support after abortion, please contact us. We are here for you.